When you work and raise children life is busy, there is just no getting away from that. Juggling everything can be incredibly stressful, meeting those work demands whilst also making your children happy can be difficult. We’re here to tell you though, that you can do this and what’s more that you don’t need to feel guilty about it. You are raising your children in a way that allows them to see your achievements, you are their inspiration. We do, however, have some tips to make it all a little bit easier on you.
Seek help
Do not be afraid to ask for help. Whether you reach out to an au pair agency or to your parents, you are not failing your children in any way through seeking the help of others. What you are doing is gaining someone in your life who can take care of the small things such as making sure the house is clean so that you can really concentrate on your children when you do have family time. Someone removing all those chores and being around for the children when you are not there so that you don’t have to worry about childcare could be a big lifesaver for you and actually help you to be more present with your children.
Don’t be tempted to neglect yourself
Remember at all times that you need to look after yourself too. If you don’t have the time and space to relax and recharge you will end up running on empty, which just doesn’t help anyone. If there is nothing left for you to give, how can you be there in the right way for your children when they need you? Make sure that you factor in some time for you regularly throughout the week. Whether, it’s a walk all by yourself, a trip to the gym, a soak in a bubble bath with a good book or a night out with friends, do it. You will find that you are a better parent when your needs are met too.
Constantly evaluate your situation
Working and parenting aren’t always going to be a 50/50 split. There are times when you will have to put more effort into your parenting role and times when you should place more focus on your work. To manage both successfully, you will need to be flexible and recognise when you have to give a bit more to each part of your life. Try and ensure that you have constant communication with your partner, if you know, for instance, that you have a busy couple of weeks coming up at work it might be that they can pick up the slack a bit more at home. Likewise, if you recognise that there is something major happening in your child’s life, you could both look at ways that you could try and spend more time at home to be around for them. It’s all about balance and a willingness to change if you recognise that something isn’t quite working.
John Smith 